Taking the Labels Off

Happy Take the Labels off Tuesday,

Shopping maybe not be for everyone, some people could care less about going form aisle to aisle and rack to rack, others are obsessed and live for the clinging of hangers and smell of new clothes, and some its a force of habit, which ever way, people like to feel and tryout the fabric of an item before purchasing it. To really understand quality of clothes this is where labels and brands come into play. We must admit that some labels offers quality and some offer a generic version of the real thing, so taking all the labels off would allow you to experience the clothes and see what they have to offer through experience. Well, my suggestion would be to do the exact same in any form of a relationship. Experience the ship and decided if its a watered down or generic version of the real thing. So often we think were are getting a great deal and buy an item with the lower price, and as soon as we wear it....This weekend I was hit with some pretty heavy relationship , heart felt things. One thing I can admit about myself is that I have pretty high expectations for those who I hold close to my heart, AND I tend to take things a bit out of context. For me the experiences with the ships will exposed the quality of the relatiohshiop . Is it a good fit? Does it elaborate what it needs to and camouflage flaws. These very things has to be taken into account with relationships.  The most important part for me was to admit my wrongs and be more conscience of not allowing it to become apart of my character. So from this point on I am taking the labels off  all situations and relationships, and recognizing I only have family, no friends, just family. It has been engraved in my heart this weekend that those who are blessed to have my heart in hand deserves it, and is equally I am blessed to have their heart in hand as well. NOPE, no more friend zones these women are my sisters...from another mother. It was such a relief to learn or be reminded that I matter and what was suppose to be a misunderstanding became a mountain...Never again. Today, I take the first stand to say I will not allow misunderstandings to tear away at the fabric of my sisters and I bond. Today, I take off labels and wear them on the matters of my heart and mind. One thing is for sure, too many companions may come to ruin, but there is family who stick closer to the truth. I stand to be faithful to the wounds of my sisters, and not allow their sores to damage them, I stand to bear the burdens of my sisters, and not allow falls to shift them, I stand to pray for my sister that life is their portion. ANY relationship is worth fighting for especially when all feelings can be heard, acknowledged, and respected. Today, I speak to your heart, if their is anyone who deserves your heart, make it right, not for them but for your peace. Who would have ever thought 1996 being the beginning of joining like minded, beautiful, purposeful, good-hearted women together... a bond that may bend but not break...Its impossible for the love is too strong....Take sometime today to just reach out to family and friend and make it right... trust me it will not happen over night but its a fight to put on your gloves and run to the ring...ding ding ding!

P.S. I LOVE TAKING OFF THE LABELS

My Own Best Friend.

Good Beyonce Thursday,

Ok. I don't claim to be the biggest fan of Beyonce nor do I agree with all of the choices she makes. But, who am I to judge right?  While dealing with an emotional week,  one of her greatest hits came to mind. Me, myself and I. I love this song because often times in life you put so much time into relationships to only come out empty. Some relationships are there only around when its convenient for them, others are around when you can do something for them or give them something, some dangle around to just have you on an added list that has no purpose. Either of them doesn't feel good and can offend your self-worth. Although, I know I will never be rejected by GOD, its still not a good feeling to be rejected by those you hold close to your heart. I have learned that GOD is always near during times my heart is broken and spirit is crushed. So, if you find yourself feeling abandoned, lonely, rejected, and all by yourself STOP and allow yourself some time to be healed. One thing for sure is that GOD looks for the perfect heart not the perfect performance. If those who you are in a relationship with doesn't share the same sympathy for the relationship, you could be apart of a selfish relationship. You must not be on a merry-go-round trying to please people so they won't reject you. Don't get me wrong, we all need to be loved, but not based on our performances in life, or what we have to take from others, or denying your true thoughts or feelings to be accepted. So while your learning this process you may feel alone and in that moment think of Beyonce crawling through her video singing" Me, myself, and I that's all I got in the end, that's what I found out and there ain't no need to cry, I took a vow that from now on I'm gone be my own best friend. Not to mentions her bob is fierce in that video. Take some time out for you, becoming your own best friend give you the experience of how you should be treated. " I know I would never disappoint myself....Love you first!

P.S. I LOVE ME, MYSELF, AND I

Breakthrough!!

Happy Breakthrough Monday Dolls,

Today is the day where you breakthrough and continue to walk in your purpose. This past week had been a very emotional and frustrating week. I felt myself becoming a bit bitter with how situations were turning out. My heart was heavy and I felt as if I was in a ring with my back up against the ropes...I was going down..for the entire count!  Sunday morning wasn't any different heavy with questions covering my heart. I walked into church and immediately, I felt the presence of GOD during worship. Of course I was in a battle within my mind and heart to receive what was being offered in the spirit realm. Suddenly, it broke all the rejection, abandonment, frustration, irritation, depression, betrayal, and deception was being lifted off my mind and all I could hear was the pastor speaking into the atmosphere and demanding the burdens to be lifted and allowing peace to be our portion. Whheeewww is all I can say! Everything I had vented to my husband about was being spoken into the atmosphere. In that very moment I had no other choice but to surrender. For the LORD tells us "if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow. That's exactly what was going in my spirit...the battle between my will and the will GOD has choose for me. Easier said than done. I have to continue to win the battle of giving up my will. If this seems to be an issue for you, now is the time for you to go before GOD and ask for HIS will to take over yours. You must learn to be subconscious on every action and choice of words. You see both has a result of a response, one that you may be proud of and one that would bring on shame. It's, all a choice within your mind body and soul to allow GOD presence take presidence and residence in your life. Now is the time, tomorrow may be too late. Yesterday, was graced. Step into your new life, the one you was born to live, not the one the world has shaped. From the memories of what used to be said by a dear friend of mines... I got my second wind yesterday...I'm ready to fight..... Thank GOD today for whats to come. Thank you, today for allowing me to share an experience of breakthrough. I leave by asking you to join me.. For the remaining of this month will be demanding breakthrough in the mind and soul.

P.S. I LOVE BREAKTHROUGHS

Infatuation of Reflection

Happy Factual Friday,

Infatuation of Reflections,
Have you ever gotten to a point, where you had to stop and figure out what is really going on? Not only am I talking about the characters traits of a person but those very traits that drives their behavior, mood, feelings, thoughts, dialogue, expressions, and how they changes from person to person and from event to event. In this time with all the evil things that are occurring you must become almost infatuated with reflections. I must admit it may be very difficult to sum people up according to their character because sometimes it hurts to discover their true heart. So be very careful during this process because you may feel the emotion and back down. At their very moment is where you have to make a choice to continue and digest something that is a pseudo, or come out of agreement and embrace those real emotions and break free. Assuming it will get better is a unconscious guard that goes up to keep from feeling the real emotion and dealing with the truth. This world can be very cruel and cold, the best way to get through life is to forgive and offer love. This way love is the very thing that sustains you throughout life. You cant control how people receive, treat, believe, or respond to you. You can control you, and how you deal with foolishness, ignorant controversies that breed quarrels. You can control your attitude and heart to always be in a place to be kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, and holding on to the knowledge of truth, and that everyone (including you) may come to their senses and escape from the snares of the evil after being captured by him and allowing evil to be your will. Become infatuated with reflection... it keeps us grounded with our feet planted on earth. One thing about looking at you is you see you as a reflection.

P.S. I LOVE REFLECTION

The Moral of the Story is...

Good Afternoon Beautiful Dolls,

What does the word moral means to you? Have you ever been through a situation or experience and afterwards have no idea what purpose it served. In this idea called life the only way to truly become reflective and accountable for your behavior is to seek the moral message behind the situation and/or experience. For you may fall seven times but still rise again, the moment of getting back up is where some form of maturity should be planted in the process. Don't allow pride to formulate disgrace and a even more "I'm perfect and has not done anything to anyone...its all their fought" haughty spirit. Perhaps lean not unto you own understand and consider other feelings and their point of view. Being all in humbleness will develop a sense of wisdom for the next situation and/or experience. HENCE..the moral message within. What will you be humble about today?

P.S. I LOVE MORAL MESSAGES

Can"t be Broken

Happy Monday Dolls,

Have you ever felt lifted from the ground? Have you ever felt as if you are on top of the world? In this season in my life I feel rejuvenated by GOD! I am so excited to share and invite you all into my heart and spirit for a moment. BE CAUTIONS...VERY EMOTIONAL AND SENSITIVE BUT CARRIES THE TRAITS OF A WARRIOR. I know many people are trying to figure me out, they are trying to understand my movements, they are trying to wonder about blessing..It only frustrates them because they don't recognize who I am and who I belong to...GOD. I am finally at a peaceful place to love who I am, love my struggles and love GOD for creating me. Please don't take this as a boast it's just confident in the GOD I have choose to serve. If you can think back on all the knifes that has been placed in your back, the tongues your name has rolled off, and the chains locked on your ankles... and to know you are still here.  Regardless of those who have placed them or tried to stop you from moving forward.....you have endured the patience within you move forward...I want to encourage you that no matter what you have been through you must keep pressing to move forward, you must keep the heartbeat that allows you to get out of the chains and break free and never give up. Trust me you will always be blessed even when they revile, persecute you, and plant all kinds of evil against you, you will always be blessed even when you are falsely accuse you for doing the right thing. In the unspoken words, the unseen thoughts that validates the statement: they only come after the ones who intimidate them. I leave you today with the visual of you being the one with the sling and stone, I am sure they would rather use the stones to throw in a pond, with you being the silent force that resembles tornados seen on television, with you being the salt of the earth that others rather poor over snow, with you being the light that others would rather use to look for items under a bed than on a hill. Hmmmm forgive them of their iniquities, for they don't know better. I can't be broken I was born for this....

P.S. I LOVE THAT I CANT BE BROKEN

Transformers

Happy Transforming Thursday Dolls,

What more do you need? Sometimes in life in order to get a different result, we just have to be transformed. There should always be moments in your life that you allow elements in life to give you a make over. I'm not talking about with hair, make-up and coming home with a different style of clothes, I am simply talking about allowing the experiences in life to develop or redevelop a different character within. The reality is, this world is filled with evil thoughts by others that shape evil people. Everybody is trying to get ahead, even if it means to unshape the framework of someone else life. Everyone is working with selfish and manipulative opinions to dictate how far they desire to be in life. Its a darn shame you have people who seeks you and your character and wait for a moment to exaggerate and strip you of your movements in life. This is why it is so important for us to STOP and allow ourselves to be transformed by the renewal of our minds. Focusing on being a person of integrity with a clean heart and a pure spirit. Being restored with the wisdom and discernment to not allow yourself to be used, misused, mishandled, or mislead by others. Keep in mind this process works for the good on two accounts: 1- it allows the old things with hidden motives to be passed away, and 2- it blocks all evil seeds to be planted in your mind to harvest thoughts of not being good enough, thoughts of being abandoned, thoughts of being incompetent, thoughts of procrastination,  and any thoughts they may cause corruptions or keep you from moving forward. Transforming your mind keeps your heart open to know that you were created to be great...

P.S. I LOVE BEING TRANSFORMED

Life after College

Hello Beautiful Dolls,

This weekend I got a chance to visit my undergrad school, SIUC. It was at the moment of driving down state that all these emotions began to boil over. I was super excited to be visiting the campus, but I had no idea it would bring up old emotions about being a student and living life as an independent young women. I was talking with some family members and all I could do was to tell them that this was the place that forced me to be on my own and grow up. College life for me was not only an academic experience but a truth experience as well. College is where I walked in as an inexperienced young girl with very little exposure, and walked out a well rounded women. You see, for me college was more than going away, it was an escape from the mean streets of Chicago and dodging the bullets without names and running away from the drug infested houses and drug slanging corners. It was a moment of truth after walking across my high school stage, it was a choice life or death. I has to choose living beyond my environment or melting into what it had to offer. I had chosen  life away from my household, streets, and family, because neither of them would secure my life and a successful future. SIUC was a vacation compared to the south-side of Chicago. So visiting the place that brought me growing pains and taught me how to persevere and endure regardless of my background was overwhelming. Walking into the very buildings that once brought me fear turned out to be offering me destiny. I am so grateful for the experience of growing up. Life at SIUC was nothing I could have been told but everything I experienced and learned. Thank You SIUC. I bleed maroon blood and empowered by the Saluki SPIRIT!!!!!

P.S. I LOVE SIUC