Motivation Monday

Morning Dolls,

 I know many of you are familiar with the word motivation. What would you say comes to mind when you think or hear the term "motivation"? I know we all love to be motivated and encouraged from time to time, actually it feels good to have people offer some motivation, when you least expect it. While you may be smiling from ear to ear...thinking yes I love to be motivated, there is another side to the word. You becoming the motivator or the one who offers the words of motivation. Sometimes I think we forget that the same feeling we get when we are motivated is the same void of feeling others don't have the opportunity to experience by receiving motivation. What happened to us not being selfish, but walking in humility? What happened to us not doing anything through strife and/or with a hidden motive, but walking in lowliness and esteeming others higher than ourselves. It could be a pretty lonely road having to always encourage yourself. Some people never evolve and come out of their personal mind and motivate others which keeps them from having the ability to celebrate others accomplishments. Has it ever dawned on you that others may really need motivation throughout life. We all come from different backgrounds and experiences  which leads us to different journeys in life. So what may seem to come easy or "common sense" may be a struggle for others. Situations that may have been mistakes for could be teachable for others. Have you ever noticed it is so much easier for us to observe and develop and opinion on what others should be doing, but have a hard time identifying our own faults. Better options are those who receive motivation. Better options are for those who come out of their self and esteem others higher than the point they are standing. You never know your break through could be coming from you motivating others and celebrating them during a time of enduring. Oh and one quick tip...you shouldn't have control over who "you" want to motivate or celebrate. If they are...they should... 

P.S. I LOVE TO MOTIVATE

I rather have a call...or visit

Happy Wednesday Dolls,

I am so ashamed to have been gone for such a long time without posting. Please don't charge it to my heart rather have a bit of grace for one of the hardest working school teacher around. Yep, that's me...but I am screaming from the top of my lungs on this morning, I was able to wake up around 8ish am and not have to rush off to fix lunch, iron, and prepare for a long day of reading, math, writing, science, social science, common core state standards, dibels testing, TRC testing, NWEA testing, anchor charts, Next Generation Science Standards, and that's just what is expected, now implementing it is another level. Moreover, as you can see I was also able to wake up and have a bit of free time to share what's on my mind. Inquiring minds want to know, why the very thing that is suppose to bridge the gap and provide a sense of togetherness has been drawing wedges amongst families and friends...is..technology. I know you all are probably like whhaatt...Please hear me out first. From my understanding technology was the new "40s" for families and friends to communicate when time wouldn't allow them to physically spend time together (right). So what happened to families and friends who are not long distance and have the ability to be spend physical time together or able to pick up the phone and dial? Exactly! Think about how many text's you may received rather than a phone call or visit. Lets be real, the only two things that allows relationships to flourish is communication and spending physical time together. We must not allow this digital world strip us of creating memorable moments spent with family and enjoying those "its good to hear your voice" " I am so glad you called" or "you hang up, naw you hang up" conversations. Yes, I do understand if cities/states, money and/or time doesn't permit the visit or call. However, we as physical creatures must make a physical conscience effort to make a physical visit or a physical call. Lets be real for a moment, it takes less time and effort to press digits than texting a message. You know you can't hide behind a text message for long. So when you want to send a text, try calling so that they can hear your voice. I don't know how many times I have been apart of or witness people fighting over an assumed tone of a text message. Hearing the persons voice allows real dialogue that speaks for itself. Your able to hear the persons tone and delivery and respond. With this,  allows the moments of truth to be shared, damage to be dismantled, communication lines to be open, and bonds to mend. Being on the phone kind of forces a person to listen and hear and be slow to speak, which diffuses the anger. I don't know about you all but I would rather hear a warm voice over reading cold black letters any day. Join me for the next two weeks to avoid quarrels, be gentle, and show courtesy toward those you "say" you love. Instead of texting, call and if you can instead of a call, visit. I can promise you that these affectionate gestures will break the foolishness up, besides who can be angry, argue, judge, or don't want to be bothered with LOVE? Its an act of preserving not only your life but the lives of others.
P.S. I LOVE A CALL OR VISIT

see how that works out

ikr

I know she is not the only one feeling this way..be honest

Wow, now this will surely start an argument or assumption...or will it?

The Pressure

Hi Dolls,

It has been what seems like forever since my last post. Winding down to the end of the school year, and having to do all that comes along with it. I'm sure by now my students ears are muted to the sound of my voice. I am as elated as they are to end 2014-15 school year! The sun and relaxation is calling my name. I can see a hammock with my name on it! Ok, now back to the regular program... I have been so busy that I didn't take the time out to wish my Pumpkin Poo, Raquel a Happy B-day...my ace boom boom..my ride or die...my toddles and poof, my sister...I love ya, mmuuuaahhhh. You all have a blessed weekend and remember we are making a conscience effort to move forward. I want to leave you all with a pressure point: No temptation has to overtake you, especially if its a common one. In every moment of temptation, there is a way of escape so that you may bear and endure. The moment you think you cant move forward is the very moment to apply pressure upon yourself to think of all the reasons you should. No relationship, friendship, companion, and/or associate is worth, not being respected, considered and celebrated. NOTHING is worth putting your heart in a pressure cooker, raising your blood pressure, or giving into peer pressure. Inside every pressure there is a press.

P.S. I LOVE PRESSURE

Moving on...

Happy Moving On Monday,

As you began or continue this new life of being accountable and reflective, there comes a time where you have to force yourself to move on. In some situations you will need to move on and in others you may need to move on and try a different perspective and/or approach. You always want your love be genuine and let go any evil pending thoughts. I don't know how many conversations I have had with people and all they are holding on to is time, more so years. You need to allow those things and people to move on. This means moving on in your heart as well. In this season, there has been some people who I was forced to let go and move on. In the beginning it was really hard because I didn't want to face the fact that their motivates toward what I thought was a relationship wasn't as pure as it seemed. I replayed several events in my mind in hopes to find a pinch of hope. Although, some events came across very dedicated, but in the end it was the heart that manifest the truth. Boy wasn't it ugly. I have to admit the hardest thing is to realize that what you thought was holding the relationship together was the very thing that tarnished it. So, if you find yourself in a mislead relationship, take a beat to take it in. Set yourself apart from your heart and deal with the person's character, mood, and behavior. Do not overcome evil with evil, rather face it within yourself. It may not be a good idea to try and get answers because chances of people acknowledging how they may have wronged or mislead you are very slim to none. The truth is... if they are willing to reconcile then it would have to be on their terms. While they ponder about if they want to set themselves free, you must work toward freedom on your own. Acknowledge any heart damage they may have caused, reflect on how you can grow or learn from it, take ownership to all your actions leading to the dismissal. Keep in mind, that the way you responds displays your character.  While attempting this "moving on" journey it is very important to keep real family and friends around that will offer a listening ear and hold you accountable for your actions. Take it one day at a time, but MOVE ON! Pack your Uhaul truck, leaving nothing behind but memories that will shape future relationships. Escape on the thoughts of being free and allow the packages in the truck to make you stronger...You will discover you in the process.....

P.S. I'M LEARNING TO LOVE MOVING ON

Daily WIsdom

Happy Wisdom Wednesday Dolls,


It is It is right to have a heart that would continually give to others, and it pleases GOD to see this wonderful characteristic in our lives. However, in this area of giving and helping, the Bible also teaches that we must have wise discernment. GOD gives us certain standards that we must take into account when it comes to giving our time and money to others. When the Bible tells us we are to help others, the purpose is never for us to do this to the point where it becomes detrimental. It's good to do what we're able to do, but also be reminded, "If a man will not work, he shall not eat." There are people who want to live an irresponsible lifestyle with absolutely no accountability. So there must be limits; we will help someone with a need, but if we see that it's become a chronic life pattern, it's wrong for us to continue to encourage that. It's very harmful to others to contribute to their indolence, laziness, and lack of effort. The old saying "Give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach him to fish and he eats for a lifetime" is very true. As long as we see that someone is sincerely making an effort, we should be there to support him in whatever way GOD leads.  Being good stewards should be taking into consideration as well. If all of our supplies and needs are meet, we should not give ALL of what was a blessing away. If, by helping someone else financially, we are unable to take care of our own debts and responsibilities, then we are not doing right in our efforts to help.There are many ways people can take advantage of others kindness and efforts. It's important that we make this a matter of prayer, asking the LORD to show us what He wants us to do. Trying to help someone who is just not willing to take any steps towards a solution in the matter may be a hopeless cause. Be mindful of your offerings.....

P.S. I LOVE WISDOM

Taking the Labels Off

Happy Take the Labels off Tuesday,

Shopping maybe not be for everyone, some people could care less about going form aisle to aisle and rack to rack, others are obsessed and live for the clinging of hangers and smell of new clothes, and some its a force of habit, which ever way, people like to feel and tryout the fabric of an item before purchasing it. To really understand quality of clothes this is where labels and brands come into play. We must admit that some labels offers quality and some offer a generic version of the real thing, so taking all the labels off would allow you to experience the clothes and see what they have to offer through experience. Well, my suggestion would be to do the exact same in any form of a relationship. Experience the ship and decided if its a watered down or generic version of the real thing. So often we think were are getting a great deal and buy an item with the lower price, and as soon as we wear it....This weekend I was hit with some pretty heavy relationship , heart felt things. One thing I can admit about myself is that I have pretty high expectations for those who I hold close to my heart, AND I tend to take things a bit out of context. For me the experiences with the ships will exposed the quality of the relatiohshiop . Is it a good fit? Does it elaborate what it needs to and camouflage flaws. These very things has to be taken into account with relationships.  The most important part for me was to admit my wrongs and be more conscience of not allowing it to become apart of my character. So from this point on I am taking the labels off  all situations and relationships, and recognizing I only have family, no friends, just family. It has been engraved in my heart this weekend that those who are blessed to have my heart in hand deserves it, and is equally I am blessed to have their heart in hand as well. NOPE, no more friend zones these women are my sisters...from another mother. It was such a relief to learn or be reminded that I matter and what was suppose to be a misunderstanding became a mountain...Never again. Today, I take the first stand to say I will not allow misunderstandings to tear away at the fabric of my sisters and I bond. Today, I take off labels and wear them on the matters of my heart and mind. One thing is for sure, too many companions may come to ruin, but there is family who stick closer to the truth. I stand to be faithful to the wounds of my sisters, and not allow their sores to damage them, I stand to bear the burdens of my sisters, and not allow falls to shift them, I stand to pray for my sister that life is their portion. ANY relationship is worth fighting for especially when all feelings can be heard, acknowledged, and respected. Today, I speak to your heart, if their is anyone who deserves your heart, make it right, not for them but for your peace. Who would have ever thought 1996 being the beginning of joining like minded, beautiful, purposeful, good-hearted women together... a bond that may bend but not break...Its impossible for the love is too strong....Take sometime today to just reach out to family and friend and make it right... trust me it will not happen over night but its a fight to put on your gloves and run to the ring...ding ding ding!

P.S. I LOVE TAKING OFF THE LABELS

My Own Best Friend.

Good Beyonce Thursday,

Ok. I don't claim to be the biggest fan of Beyonce nor do I agree with all of the choices she makes. But, who am I to judge right?  While dealing with an emotional week,  one of her greatest hits came to mind. Me, myself and I. I love this song because often times in life you put so much time into relationships to only come out empty. Some relationships are there only around when its convenient for them, others are around when you can do something for them or give them something, some dangle around to just have you on an added list that has no purpose. Either of them doesn't feel good and can offend your self-worth. Although, I know I will never be rejected by GOD, its still not a good feeling to be rejected by those you hold close to your heart. I have learned that GOD is always near during times my heart is broken and spirit is crushed. So, if you find yourself feeling abandoned, lonely, rejected, and all by yourself STOP and allow yourself some time to be healed. One thing for sure is that GOD looks for the perfect heart not the perfect performance. If those who you are in a relationship with doesn't share the same sympathy for the relationship, you could be apart of a selfish relationship. You must not be on a merry-go-round trying to please people so they won't reject you. Don't get me wrong, we all need to be loved, but not based on our performances in life, or what we have to take from others, or denying your true thoughts or feelings to be accepted. So while your learning this process you may feel alone and in that moment think of Beyonce crawling through her video singing" Me, myself, and I that's all I got in the end, that's what I found out and there ain't no need to cry, I took a vow that from now on I'm gone be my own best friend. Not to mentions her bob is fierce in that video. Take some time out for you, becoming your own best friend give you the experience of how you should be treated. " I know I would never disappoint myself....Love you first!

P.S. I LOVE ME, MYSELF, AND I